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Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Poker — Tue, 25 Aug 2009 19:22:09 -0000

great post !

it shows the beautiful way of balancing the work and life by simply setting priorities for family and work.

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Benjamin Yoskovitz — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 22:34:19 -0000

Christine - thank you so much for the comment. And congrats on the business success.

I understand your point that "work hard" is something our parents' generation pushed and promoted. And work should be fun. It's a good point to add to the equation. But it's still hard work, whether you enjoy it or not.

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Christine Hiebel — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 16:52:32 -0000

i love this post, only... I think the idea that you must work HARD is from my parents generation. It is the value that I was raised with. The older I get, the more I realize that when I relax, allow, move with ease and a sense of humor... the easier and faster my company grows.

I suggest people look to what is fun, exciting, really juices them up and then pursue it! Then the "work" becomes not work, but something you enjoy.

For example, I was looking for something so I could stay at home with my now four year old daughter. She LOVES bounce houses....I see they are getting really popular. I now have an internet site where we sell them (she loves them all). And we are starting to work with parents (I call them the parentprenuers!) to start their own bounce house rental business. For $6K, they can have a part time business (mostly weekends and evenings) that can quickly grow into a fulltime, stay-at-home-with-the-kids business. It is all inclusive, simple, fun and something the kids can participate in.

My husband and I work together (I LOVE that one of your points was to love your wife!!! That is so key to have a happy marriage). And my daughter LOVES to go with us to set up the inflatables... (she gets to jump on them for a bit).

I love my business, I love my family and I love the life we live!

Christine Hiebel
Christine@passionparent.com
www.zerovib.com

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Robin Buckley — Sat, 11 Jul 2009 13:40:25 -0000

I read something once, "I dream life was nothing but joy, then I woke up and found that there was work to do, so I found joy in the work"

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

madhusudhan — Thu, 25 Jun 2009 03:01:36 -0000

Dear sir, this is madhusudhan from india having a dream to be an entrepreneur in BPO industry. Could you please tell me what steps i should take to go ahead of this dream?

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Nicole — Tue, 12 May 2009 18:51:49 -0000

Great post. Indeed men are facing a new age crisis of their own . It is sad our society tends to downplay the importance of men not only as providers , but also as care-takers ( fathers, husbands, sons etc.) While women had their emancipation , and jumped to the job market, leaving stoves and husbands behind, men got stuck with a double load. It might just be my opinion, but i truly believe that a lot of pressure is being put on the men of the 21st century. Your post is inspirational and motivational and gives men that extra thumbs up.Hang in there guys :)

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Bethany Storage — Mon, 10 Nov 2008 06:43:32 -0000

I hope this post isnt true as I have just started my own business and I have a family too! I think am gonna need help along the way but I am confident

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Rachel Suites — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 10:16:37 -0000

I do like this post, I think the most important thing is to schedule that you are happy with so you can fit in everything you want but are happy with it as well

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Tom — Thu, 24 Jul 2008 13:53:12 -0000

Hey there. Sooo true. 16 months ago I started POKE (www.pokenewyork.com) the exact same day my son was born. Have him and my wonderful wife in my life has made it quite and interesting roller coaster - but the funny thing is - I have more perspective on what is the REAL priority than ever before.

I also used to be that type of person who jumped in and "did" everything. This new world has taught me to let go of what isn't important and hire people that are smarter than me :P to solve problems.

Jump in and do it. It works!

tom (at) http://www.madewithcomputer...

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Kris Washer — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 21:10:08 -0000

Great post. My window cleaning company has been dominating almost all of my spare time. Almost 75 hours a week. I need to follow your 3 rule... Date my wife!

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Ben Yoskovitz — Tue, 19 Feb 2008 23:00:02 -0000

@Rob and Kevin -- thanks guys, for the comments. Much appreciated.

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Kevin Sturm — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 13:10:43 -0000

I just recently found your blog and you and it are inspiring. I especially like this post though because it rings close to home. First and foremost I'm a husband and a father, but I'm also an entrepreneur. While previously fully employed I had a harder time with the work life balance, but now I don't.

I agree with what you said, but also believe that working "really" hard needs to be clarified as not working "really" long. When you are working on your business you make every second count. You carefully measure the value of each task, and low return tasks are generally not worth doing. I know that the legacy I live with my kids will long outlive the legacy I leave with my business, but that my legacy with them can be directly affected by the success of my business. It is knowing that that makes me work to ensure my business is successful.

I don't think my business model would work for everyone, but it has worked so far for me. If you can find a niche where you offer a very high value service that exceeds what most of the competition can offer, you can charge a lot more for that service or product. You won't get as much business as some of the competition, but you won't have to. This allows you to be more selective about your work (which can be harder than you think), and you spend more time working on what you want to work on.

I see too many business startups trying to meet the needs of everyone. To be successful in that market you have to open a grocery store and work really hard for really long.

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Rob McNealy — Wed, 06 Feb 2008 20:38:12 -0000

My very first real business started out of necessity, when I had to quit my day job to watch our baby while my wife was in medical school. Finding the right balance is always tough, but it's a lot easier to do when you have the flexibility of being your own boss
-Rob

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Ben Yoskovitz — Sun, 27 Jan 2008 00:20:18 -0000

@Jumpions: People struggle on for all sorts of reasons - pride, guts, glory, money ... I think we're intrinsically strong ... stronger than we probably realize as well. Best of luck.

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Jumpions — Thu, 24 Jan 2008 05:04:55 -0000

I don't have a kids and a wife yet but is so hard sometimes to do all the things I want to do. Hanging around with a few friends I got left, doing something with my girlfriend and also see my parents and relatives. Sometimes it feel like giving up but somehow, I don't. Maybe is just human nature or is it because we don't have a choice but to go on. Who knows..

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Chris Brown — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 06:57:56 -0000

Ben:
Great stuff. I really like the visuals -- how true! And especially love the advice. Keeping the balance and moving everything forward.

This post is an inspiration.
thanks,
Chris

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Ben Yoskovitz — Tue, 17 Jul 2007 23:35:05 -0000

Darrell - Thanks for stopping by and commenting.

I do think, no matter what, when starting a business, sacrifices have to be made. Those are often on the shoulders of your family. The hope is that they're temporary sacrifices and your family can support you in making them, but it's certainly not easy.

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Darrell A. Williams — Tue, 17 Jul 2007 10:09:47 -0000

This is a great reminder to me why I wanted to start my own business. I want to be able to work from home and spend time with my family. It can be done, but it does take a lot of work on both sides. You can't work on the business without working on your family relationships as well.

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Ben Yoskovitz — Thu, 12 Jul 2007 12:09:33 -0000

Geoffrey - You can always work tons of hours, I agree. And once you get into that habit it's hard to get out. The key for me is that you have to be working those hours for a reason, not to "keep busy."

I'm launching Standout Jobs in the Fall - so everything is focused on accomplishing that goal. It's a hard deadline. Of course, it doesn't mean I'll be working a ton less after that, but I can re-balance and re-evaluate at that point.

Thank you for everyone's comments so far!

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Geoffrey — Thu, 12 Jul 2007 12:00:45 -0000

One issue with what you said: just working extra hours, assuming that the hours will drop away, is not going to work. I know plenty of folks who get in the habit of working long hours, and never get out of the habit. However, if you decide on a hard deadline after which you will work normal hours, you'll have better luck.

I also agree with Stephen about wondering what I did with all my time when I was young and single. I has a friend who said that we are all just killing time until we get a family.

And, Mark Goren, I have a 3 year old son and a 13 month old daughter. Crazy, huh?

And, yes, great post. No one goes to their child's high school graduation saying, "Geez, why'd I spend all my time with my child when I could have been working?"

As for what I do: I'm the morning crew. It gives my wife one extra hour of sleep, and I do the breakfasts.

I heard a very wise man (83 years old) once say, As a general rule, be home for dinner. I hold that one pretty tightly.

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Stephen Cronin — Thu, 12 Jul 2007 11:29:33 -0000

Great post! Everything you say rings true.

I'm in the same boat - there is so much I want to be doing on the work side of things, but I have to balance it with having a young family. I've come to accept that things will have to happen more slowly now (as you say like chess).

The thing that gets me is that I'm in my mid-30s now. Ten years ago I had more time up my sleeve than I can even dream of now, but what did I do? Wasted it all...

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Mark Goren — Thu, 12 Jul 2007 09:59:14 -0000

Great post, Ben. A great post. I can relate, with a 3-year old son and 15-month old daughter at home.

I really like how you note the importance of dating your wife. I think that's a key point if you want her support as you go about work and play with the kids. Don't forget to leave time for your wife, man.

If I didn't say it enough already: great post.

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Laura Athavale Fitton — Thu, 12 Jul 2007 09:45:35 -0000

Thanks for the helpful pointers -- equally useful for the chicks too :-) Story well told, too.

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Derek — Thu, 12 Jul 2007 02:02:35 -0000

Ben, this is a very nice post and you have some great tips there for a healthy work-life balance. I love the story with the pictures as well!

Re: How-To Start a Company and Family at the Same Time

Evelyn — Wed, 11 Jul 2007 15:45:56 -0000

Nice one! I so needed these reminders this morning I particularly like number 4. :) No surprise there! I agree, very strongly, with number 7. We all have way too much on our minds these days to give up the ability to switch into auto-pilot now and then. A good routine helps with that. I like auto-pilot! Thanks, Ben -- perfect post and perfect timing!